Overwhelmed

Do you ever feel that you have too much on your plate and you know what needs to get done but so many things (obstacles) get in the way?

That's where I am now. How do I snap out of it? I'm so busy with freelance work and I have impending deadlines but so many other things take my time. So I feel like I'm not getting anywhere with anything!

What I've tried to do is remove some of the things that are creating obstacles for me. Other stressors. But it takes time to deal with those stressors. You just can't push them out of your mind, but sometimes you have to even if for a short while.

When I think of all the things I've got on my plate now, I feel so overwhelmed. So what I'm trying to do is block things out and concentrate on what needs to be done at that moment. In any "spare" time, then I try to deal with stressors and hopefully make decisions and get them out of my life once and for all.

How do others deal with feeling overwhelmed? I already talk with a counselor to try to sort things out and I write to do lists but that's overwhelming in itself to look at the growing list. Any advice?

Appreciation

I was reading a book yesterday regarding stress and it stated that instead of dwelling on your stressors, you should take the time to appreciate the good in your life. Oftentimes people, including me, do not do this.

Whereas I have my share of stressors, I do have much in my life that I do appreciate. I have my pets (2 dogs and a cat) who give me unconditional love. I could not function without them. They make me so happy, especially when I'm down. They make me laugh so much that soon I forget (or put it aside) what I was worried about. Just cuddling them makes me feel good.

I appreciate that I have a house to live in with my pets. At least I have someplace to live; many people do not. At least I have a job, where many people do not. Even though I'm not happy at the job and am currently on medical leave (a workers' comp injury), I appreciate that I'm employed.

I appreciate my friends immensely. I don't know what I would do without them to listen and support me. I also appreciate my two sisters; they seem to be the only immediate family I have. Even though we're all so different, we do love each other and work very hard on our fragile relationships.

Even though I have several medical conditions and a little more because of the injuries I sustained in February, I know that I will eventually recover from these injuries. Many people have very serious medical conditions or are paralyzed; I do not. I need to take the time to appreciate the health that I do have. I think that if I eliminate many stressors, I will eventually feel better and perhaps recover quicker and be relieved from some of my ailments.

I appreciate that I have my sight and can sit outide with my pets to read and enjoy the nice weather. I love flowers, plants, trees, grass, blue sky, puffy white clouds, and birds. I get to experience that each day. I do take the time to "smell the roses."

I just need to take the time to appreciate more in my life rather than dwelling on all the negative things. I need to remind myself of this and practice it several times a day.

Procrastination

How do you get past procrastination? I keep finding others things to do instead of what I'm supposed to be doing. I've read that procrastination is similar to perfectionism. You want to do the task perfectly so you keep delaying it and in turns nothing gets done.

I want to write a short story and submit it to a contest. How hard can that be? Very difficult. I keep searching for ideas to write on and then don't want to dwell on some of those subjects that may be painful, so I end up doing something else. I can visualize the story unfolding in my head, but when it comes to writing, nothing happens. Is it writers block? I don't think so.

I think a big part of it is that I don't want to fail. Since I'm an editor, I worry a lot about mechanics of the story instead of just writing it down. I know that's true and know what I should do, but I don't.

I work on some ideas, but don't get past the idea stage. I need to expand and develop a story. Any story. It can be funny or dramatic. It's on the tip of my tongue but it just doesn't flow to actual words.

So instead I do something else. How can I break that spell?

Forgiveness

How do you forgive? What if it's impossible for you to do so? How do you go on with your life?

Forgiveness does not come easily for me. I know it's important to forgive so that you can on with your life, but it's something that I've had difficulty with. I know that I can say to myself that I forgive my mother, but yet I still hold that anger in me. I can't get rid of it. Most of the time I don't think of her at all but every once in a while she creeps in and settles down.

I know that I shouldn't judge, but I find myself doing that with her. I think she's a horrible person with no idea of how much she's hurt me or my siblings (all for different reasons). She hides behind the catholic church and it's so hypocritical of her.

She has no compassion and is incapable of showing love. It's really pathetic and any attempts from my sisters in trying to reach her have failed. She is a mystery. She will not talk about what trauma occurred to her when she was a child. She doesn't realize that that incident(s) made her what she is today. It's a secret that will die with her.

What Does the Future Hold?

I sure do wish I could predict the future. Things would be so much easier, not only for me for for everyone. It's so difficult to know what the right thing to do is because you're afraid of making a mistake.

I have so many decisions to make and there's pros and cons to them. I need to weigh things and figure out what is best for me. The problem is that I'm afraid to make mistakes, because I'm the one who has to fix them or I feel the repercussions for many years. So sometimes I do nothing. I know that's not wise, but it's safer.

How do I get the courage to start to take chances in my life? I have a lot at stake and feel like I'm wasting precious time if I make a mistake.

Friday

Today is another day. A gloomy one. I'm in a much better mood when it's sunny outside. Oh well, just two days of rain then it'll be nice. But I'm kind of sad today. Today is my cat's birthday, the one who died. I always remember what a great cat Checkers was and how brave he was.

I need to get started writing a short story. My mind is full of ideas, but I have to stick to one.

I need to take advantage of my time. I was injured in a fall in February and have been off work since Feb 14. I'm due to return on March 27th, but that's only if the dr releases my work restrictions.

I'm trying to be as productive as I can. I've been researching lots of Web sites having to do with writing and editing to try to get as much information as I can, plus I started this blog, a new thing for me. It's kind of scary because it's almost an invasion of my privacy. Who knows who's out there!

As an editor (both freelance and full time), I need to try to find some freelance work while I'm home. I've already done one job, despite being in a sling (left shoulder) and a cast (right arm). I'm so happy now that the cast has come off. I also need to finish a Spanish proofreading test and submit that, but right now I'm trying to experiment with this blog. This is fun!!! Later.

What I Am Doing?

Hi!

This is the first time I'm doing this and I don't know what I'm getting myself into. I need to discipline myself to write everything and I think this is a good way to do it.

Where do I start? I need to think about that some more. Maybe tomorrow I'll have more ideas.